Building Strong Relationships

Why is it hard to form relationships?

People with disabilities experience social barriers because people without disabilities are scared to communicate with them. It starts when children with disabilities get pulled away from their peers. Children with and without disabilities do not know how to connect. The barrier continues when they become adults. People feel uncomfortable being seen and impatient with people with disabilities because it affects their reputation. The solution is inclusion and embracing their strengths and social goals. 

As a child, I did not know how to form relationships. I got frustrated because people showed impatience with me. I became popular a few times, but it slowly faded away because people stopped talking to me. I am very social and needed a different approach to engage with people. I felt lost not having strong relationships. I had to do trial and error to find people who will accept and embrace me. I went through many people and had some disappointments. We did not form the foundation to build relationships and grew apart. It took a while to learn how to express myself and people did not let me in. I ended up finding people who naturally accepted me, and I could be myself with them.

Santana Row- San Jose, CA.
Santana Row- San Jose, CA.

My success…

I focused on building strong relationships with people. I found my best friends during my last two years of college through being involved on campus. We wanted to be in each other’s lives as soon as we met. They observed how I handle situations with my disabilities. They knew the nature of my disabilities before we started hanging out. They are easy-going, super supportive, patient, understanding, and sincere. We overcome challenges, and we push each other to be our best. My best friends support me in different ways and are strong individuals. We enjoy going to restaurants, campus events, parties, shops, walks, parks, and movies. 

Easter 2019
Easter 2019

I met my first best friend in 2005, while we were in the fourth grade. We went to each other’s birthday parties and worked on school projects. We were not close in the beginning. We became best friends in our junior year of high school because we started to have similarities. We focused on academics and worked out doing Crossfit with our coach. She studied abroad for college, and we still talked a few times a week. We went on adventures and spent time together during her breaks. I visited her abroad. Throughout the years, we went to parties, restaurants, group discussions, beaches, karaoke, cities, hikes, and malls. She experienced my journey since 2005, and she supported me along the way.

Tips on Building Strong Relationships with People with Disabilities

People with disabilities should be admired for their personalities, characteristics, and abilities. Do not be judged by the books of their covers. Some relationships take time and extra effort. People without disabilities can build relationships with People with disabilities by volunteering and engaging in the communities. People without disabilities will miss out on unique, creative, and smart individuals. They need to be patient and have an open mind. People with disabilities surprise them and this makes people without disabilities grow too.

8 Replies to “Building Strong Relationships”

  1. Hi My Maddy girl.
    You are such a sweetbeautiful person.
    I had the privilege of supporting Maddy in 5th -6 th grades. She has left a lasting feeling of love with me all these years. She has shaped the way I work with my students.
    Thank you Maddy for sharing this time of your life with me. Lots of Love Ms. Kim

  2. Great article about forming relationships Maddy! My life has been enriched knowing and working with you! It’s so important to not judge a person from their outward appearance because you could be overlooking the treasure underneath.

  3. Love the article! I have worked with Maddy as her Employment Specialist. I have learned so much from her as she has so much determination, spunk and such a positive attitude. So glad to be working with you. You are an inspiration to others!

  4. Great, Maddy. You are such a talented writer!

    ” Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties” ——Helen Keller

  5. Love this article Maddy! Thank you for sharing. So lucky to have formed such a beautiful and long lasting friendship with you. Go Oaks!

  6. Hi Maddie. You are incredible. Ty for the article. It is an epitome of how true friendship is formed. It takes patience, time, understanding, openness, resilience, persistence, being in the right place, forgiveness(for real…lol). I’m a fan of Quietly bold and making a difference. Keep sharing!

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